We all get angry from time to time. It is okay to get angry as long as it is expressed in harmless ways. By that I mean it is not to be seen as mature to attack others physically or verbally when we feel angry. Anger is an emotion and can be learned to manage internally as opposed to externally. It is probably better idea to go to the gym and beat the hell out of a boxing bag than attack your spouse. It is morally unacceptable to drag others into our ‘sad and angry’ world.
“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”
Buddha
If you feel upset, angry and/or irritated most of the time it is probably a good idea to look at those who you surround yourself with. Naturally we surround ourselves with those who ‘feed’ our immediate reality. Is it that you seem to have bad luck finding a loving and caring partner? How unfair!!! You promised to yourself that this time you will be careful and won’t settle for less than you deserve. My question is – are you genuinely aware of what you deserve? Do you have a clear view on what is acceptable and what is not in ‘your world’? Maybe you surround yourself with those who feed your ego rather than your soul.